This is a sign your partner manipulates you

“An apology without a change is manipulation.”

What is manipulation actually? Many people think that manipulation is a behavior that defines with the  intentional use of another person for some personal gain.  Us humans have built in pattern of manipulation, and we’ve been doing it since very small children, when we’ve learnt what tears and fake smiles can bring for our sake…

but this pattern is unavoidable in a relationship too, though you think you and your beloved would never do this kind of things to each other. Besides the intention to be  open, many couples use “masked” behaviors to get their needs met when they think direct requests won’t work. This is yet a subtle form of couple manipulation.

Here are few “bulletin facts” that you’re being manipulated by your partner, and I’m not saying that it is on purpose. You may be married or in a caring and deep relationship, and you might still be treated like this without any intention. But most of the times, unfortunately, the intention for personal gain exists…

  • Your partner is constantly burdening you with their point of view, facts and everyday information from their day at work. It is a form of intellectual bullying – you’re overwhelmed from their information, you forget about yourself and your issues
  • they make you think that what they do for you and with you is SUCH A BIG DEAL, and you don’t appreciate it. Even with such small things like buying bread, or eating in your favorite restaurant instead of theirs…
  • Ideas and plans aren’t put on the table for discussion, but as an ultimatum. Otherwise, a fight is right around the corner, where you’re being mentally pushed…

  • you’re always being the criticized one and the jokes are always on your tab….I mean, it’s completely healthy to have an open talk and even joke about your own flaws, but if it is an ongoing thing, that is a type of manipulation, to show that the other person is one scale above you and you should be happy to have them
  • when a problem occurs, instead of talking – they’re being silent and acting angry. They understood what it is all about, but they don’t want to talk it out, because for them the problem it’s not a problem! Get it?

Have you been in a similar situation before? Do you feel like you’re being manipulated in some other sorts of ways? Share with us in the comments below.

https://time.com/5411624/how-to-tell-if-being-manipulated/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-warning-signs-of-manipulation-in-relationships/

https://www.bustle.com/articles/162103-11-signs-youre-being-manipulated-in-a-relationship-how-to-fix-it

 

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