Whether you’re the one to end a relationship, or your partner just said he doesn’t want to be with you no more, getting out of a relationship is hurtful. Also, if you were or weren’t so happy together, or if you have been together for quite some time or just a few months – it is still not easy.
That’s why a University from Australia conducted a research among participants from 21 to 40, asking simple questions about their previous relationships, and has found that there are three simple strategies to get over a relationship.
We’re exclusively sharing them with you!
- Thinking about the bad habits and flaws of your ex – this is the first tried strategy, based on what people usually do after breaking up. Thinking negatively and building up a negative image of your ex is a good plan to get over them and was also proven efficient in the conducted study, however, the unwanted result is that you might start to think badly about yourself and the obvious choices you ignored.
- Thinking about the wonderful feelings that have awakened – another strategy presented to the participants was thinking about the beautiful feelings triggered by your ex. Regretting the time spent with someone isn’t always a good idea for everyone, so this strategy, remembering the positive feelings and times with someone and saying it’s OK to still care for someone you’re no longer with – made a positive impact for 25% of the subjects.
- “The distraction condition” – this method was presented to the test subjects by questioning them about stuff they like or dislike in their lives, their jobs and hobbies. This didn’t make them love their ex any less, but it was most efficient in the actual process of forgetting about them and actually moving on with their life, because they were paying attention to their own interests instead of the times spent together.
Which of the above strategies have you actually tried after a break up?